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Ever thought why people break rules? One example is this game. You were already told not to press the red button but you still did. Why? Because it increases our ego. It is a subconscious effect that if we break rules we eventually feel good. Admit it you felt better you pressed it. This also explains why we humans like freedom. Put a man in a cage and he will decimate his enemies, unshackle his chains, cry at the wind for freedom just to get home..=)<br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-large;">Bob says "I won't do exercise today besides I'm already tired from work I'll do it in the weekend" by Sunday he say "Well its a Sunday its a rest day so I have to rest"</span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-large;">If you think your going to get somewhere with your excuses your not. The Universe and even maybe God only rewards your efforts..</span>kimian55http://www.blogger.com/profile/16564071550408519750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1881172165075952873.post-24926708794103440122010-10-10T10:06:00.000-07:002010-10-10T10:06:30.512-07:00What we have<img src="http://t2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcTII15kgrr0Gx0aveojIZsYKWFnxFXLjUOQnmku75QL5h9rNEE&t=1&usg=__7nEp92MTvbgnoJ4olIbRbc6h54E=" /><br />
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In philosophical context it represents all of humanities kindness, In religion it is the Devinne law that we must abide. </span></span></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"><br /></span></span></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"> The truth is actually don't have definition of it nor plan to know what it means. But I do know this that it feels good and we all need it. Our need for it is insatiable we will always be hungry for it. No matter what.</span></span></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"><br /></span></span></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;">So how do we get love from other people? </span><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;">Well firstly you have to have love. How can you give something if you don have it?</span></b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"> To have love is to love yourself first if you don't Ill show you how. </span></span></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"><br /></span></span></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"><br /></span></span></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;">I used to hate myself when I was young I thought it was an actual sin my mother gave birth to me in this God forsaken world.Until I heard this song it says "the greatest love of all is loving oneself" I thought it was corny as hell but it was right. Then I thought I can actually love myself... What I did was </span><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;">I thought of the things that I like about myself. </span></b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;">I listed them on a piece of paper actually</span><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"> 20 of the qualities I like about me</span></b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"> , and every day I try to think more of the things I like about me and kept on adding it on that piece of paper. </span><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;">I focused my energy on the things that I like about me. </span></b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;">Then slowly I began to like myself I exercised, eat well, slept better.. I became good to myself over all.</span></span></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"><br /></span></span></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"> After that my relationships improved with my mother, brother, sister and the other people around me since I was now able to give love.</span><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"> </span></b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;">No more hate.</span><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"> Just Love</span></b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;">. And you know what the more I gave love to other people the more I received love. I saw that if I was kinder to others they would give the kindness back. </span></span></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"><br /></span></span></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;">This is true I'm not kidding and this turn around happened 3 years ago</span></span></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;">and just like the Golden book says "do unto other what you want to do unto you"</span></span></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;">It WORKS!!!</span></span></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"><br /></span></span></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"><br /></span></span></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-weight: normal;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;">-Kim Ian M. 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If you look at nature like an ants nest you can see that their is an order of things there is "order" there is discipline.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div> And just like nature you must get rid of the trash in life and keep the needs. For example laying all day watching TV really won't give you any growth now would it? You need to be organized and have good management on things. =) </div><div><br /></div>kimian55http://www.blogger.com/profile/16564071550408519750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1881172165075952873.post-4772779478128733092010-08-29T05:24:00.000-07:002010-09-01T05:27:02.598-07:00A little discipline<b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:x-large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:x-large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><br /></span></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:x-large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"> <img src="http://www.unisa.edu.au/ltu/images/study.jpg" /></span></span></b></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:x-large;">A little discipline</span></span></span></b><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:x-large;"><b><br /></b></span></span></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:x-large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"><br /></span></span></b></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"> Have the discipline doing the things that you don't want to do, maybe like throwing away your trash, cleaning your room or even maybe exercising so you maybe able to do and achieve great things in life.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;">Think about it if you do exercise in the morning even though you don't want to, you can be healthier enjoy, more years in life, be more active, be more attractive etc.... if we just put on the effort to do the little things in life, we can enjoy the bigger better things.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">The little small sacrifices that we do can make huge big difference in our happiness and quality of life</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" ;font-size:medium;"><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" ;font-size:medium;"><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" ;font-size:medium;"><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">-Min Jeong Park </span></div>kimian55http://www.blogger.com/profile/16564071550408519750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1881172165075952873.post-10448103339372493062010-08-24T21:53:00.000-07:002010-09-08T05:19:45.339-07:00Tenacity<div> <img src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_wM_OZdOMR_Y/Ry8JreU7USI/AAAAAAAAAPI/_mOI2Ld2_YQ/s320/Hedge-Fund-Sales-Tenacity.jpg" /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" ;font-size:x-large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;">Tenacity</span></span></b></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div> I have an Uncle who I barely talk to but when I do I get so much wisdom from him. Anyway his the older brother of my mother, his the kind of man who had nothing in life but worked his way to where he is right now, which is very successful. I mean the man became vice president of a major company when he was just 37 years old. </div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div>So I wondered "How did he do it?". My grandparents didn't really have resources to send him to the best business school in the country but he did study their. So I asked him, "Why are you so successful?" he just smiled and said "well I'm not really that successful" so I replied "yes you are"</div><div><br /></div><div> Then he said "<b>Its the tenacity in life not to give up, when your down you don't stay down.. you get up one more time and keep moving forward.</b>" he further explained that in order to succeed you don't need to be a genius (which he was) you just need a <b>good plan.</b> He also told me that their were many times in his life that he was down, where he could have sat down and raised the white flag give up in life but he didn't. He told me many things that I didn't know about him.</div><div> </div><div>But there was one clear message he told me its <b>"Tenacity" </b>when the tough gets going the going gets tough. </div><div><br /></div><div> </div><div>So that's how I learned about tenacity, I almost gave up on this blogging thing until I heard his pep talk. Which really helped.. </div><div><br /></div><div><i><b>If you have questions about this article please feel free to contact me and ask questions,please refer to the Contact us page. =)</b></i></div><div><i><b><br /></b></i></div><div><br /></div>kimian55http://www.blogger.com/profile/16564071550408519750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1881172165075952873.post-84352565566932509112010-07-27T17:43:00.000-07:002010-08-15T22:15:20.891-07:00Finding life's purpose<div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;">Finding life's purpose</span></b></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><br /></span></b></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"> <img src="http://reallifespirituality.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/life-purpose.jpg" /></span></b></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" ;font-size:large;"><br /></span></b></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><br /></span></b></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">Why am I here? Have you ever asked this question? or what is my purpose in life. To be honest with you this is a luxury question. Only the people from the first world country think about..The people from the 3rd world country on the other hand already know it but most them are unaware of it. Or there maybe there just too busy dying.</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">The simple answer is <b>WE MAKE OUR OWN PURPOSE, </b> we don't have to wait for anyone or some magical thing to happen. We create our worth, we make our own destiny and that is much much better than having to wait "What is our destiny" instead we make it happen. Why do you think God gave us free will in the first place?</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">Another thing, this is about finding my self thing. I'll give you a heads up<b> SELF IS CREATED BY YOU, IT IS NOT FOUND</b>. So even if you spend 50 years wondering who you really are you won't find it... because you have to create it.</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">I am a psychologist and these are just some of the basic lessons we take that most people have a little misconception about.. =)</span></div>kimian55http://www.blogger.com/profile/16564071550408519750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1881172165075952873.post-11889110111818102932010-07-10T09:51:00.000-07:002010-07-10T10:15:46.235-07:00Self determination<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_lhp5vS9BelI/TDipD0mx3zI/AAAAAAAAAJc/s-Jrn7-WvJI/s1600/running.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 223px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_lhp5vS9BelI/TDipD0mx3zI/AAAAAAAAAJc/s-Jrn7-WvJI/s320/running.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5492325628704317234" /></a><br /><div><br /></div><div><div><br /></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><b><br /></b></span></div><div><br /></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:x-large;">Self Determination</span></b></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">Self determination. In one of our classes in college we discussed self determination. It can actually make or unbreakable a person. The person with high self determination performs well in puzzles, has high pain threshold, higher stamina and just makes better decision in life in general.</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">A person with high self determination sounds like this "I hold my own destiny if I work hard enough, I will win this race"</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">A person with low self determination however sound a bit like this</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">"No matter what I do I will never beat him and I will lose"</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">There was a case study in in the University of Seoul in S.Korea in 2007.</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">40 young men ages 18-22 with no social life were told to go to a club and dance with girls. 30 men were able to get a dance with a lady the other 10 were unable to do so.</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">After the experiment the 30 men who had a dance were asked. How did you get the lady? and they all answered the same thing . They said "I was just lucky " some even said it was because of the experiment but all of them said it felt good and 15 of the men said it could happen again . The other 10 mens with low self esteem were reinforced with the notion. I'm unlucky in life.</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">All in all the experiment proves 2 things.</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">1. People with low self esteem believes in some external force that make up their lives. They seem so helpless</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">2. A person who has low self esteem will need constant positive reinforcement to change his views. It doesn't have to big little things like making a new friend or winning little games can boost self esteem and inevitably self determination. =)</span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><br /></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">-Kim Ian M. Tumblod</span></div></div>kimian55http://www.blogger.com/profile/16564071550408519750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1881172165075952873.post-71542010948500607402010-06-29T23:37:00.000-07:002010-06-30T02:51:54.639-07:00Not giving up<div><span class="Apple-tab-span" style="white-space:pre"> </span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><br /></span></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;">Not giving up</span></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><br /></span></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><br /></span></span></b></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><b><br /></b></span></span></div><div><b> </b><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"> Remember this when you feel like giving up. </span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"> </span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"> </span></b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;">At your early days when you were just learning to walk, Do you think if you gave up in learning to walk you can walk now? But you continued to get up every time you fell down until finally you mastered it. Hell you even learned how to run. Right!?</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;">If you give up on the hurdles in life, that doesn't mean the problem went away. Its still there waiting for you to deal with.</span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"> </span></span></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"> Don't give up on your dreams...=)</span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"><br /></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;">And do your best to achieve it,because its not failing that hurts </span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;">Its knowing that you failed to achieve your dream without doing your best.</span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"><br /></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"><br /></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"><br /></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"><br /></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;"><br /></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;">-</span></b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FFFFFF;">Kim Ian M. Tumblod</span></div>kimian55http://www.blogger.com/profile/16564071550408519750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1881172165075952873.post-56019174538254606132010-06-24T05:51:00.000-07:002010-06-25T07:59:05.338-07:00Courage and Fear<span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 19px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><b><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 19px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><b><img src="http://dejan13.blog.siol.net/files/2009/01/courage-dog-tv-01.jpg" /></b></span></span></span></div><div><br /></div> </b></span></span></span><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 19px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><b><br /></b></span></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 19px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><b> Fear</b></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><b> </b>is an </span></span><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotion" title="Emotion" style="text-decoration: none; background-image: none; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: initial; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#000000;">emotional</span></span></span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"> response to a perceived threat. It is a basic survival mechanism occurring in response to a specific </span></span><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stimulus_(physiology)" title="Stimulus (physiology)" style="text-decoration: none; background-image: none; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: initial; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#000000;">stimulus</span></span></span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;">, such as </span></span><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pain" title="Pain" style="text-decoration: none; background-image: none; background-attachment: initial; background-origin: initial; background-clip: initial; background-color: initial; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#000000;">pain</span></span></span></a><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"> or the threat of danger.</span></span></span><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 19px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><br /></span></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 19px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;">Its not bad at all, fear makes you sharp in the presence of danger. Makes you think faster heightens reflex,even makes you stronger. Pumps adrenaline onto the system it gives you the fight or flight mechanism. Its just basic instinct. Designed to keep us from harms way. Unfortunately fear also tells us not to do stuff that were suppose to do. Nowadays we fear insignificant stuff. </span></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 19px;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 19px; font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 19px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;">Hence "<b>Courage is not the absense of fear courage is acting in spite of fear.</b>"</span></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 19px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;">Usually the people who do nothing in there lives are just scared as scared as people who take great risks in their lives. Why be scared of insignificant stuff? Like talking to that person your interested in. That person won't bite you (not unless he has mental problem). </span></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 19px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><br /></span></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 19px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;">Do you know that cartoon, "Courage the cowardly dog" he is a coward, but because of his love for his master. He does he best against Aliens,Ghost and monsters..he fights them with all his might now that is courage.</span></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 19px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><br /></span></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 19px; "><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;">"A man who says he fears none does not know how to love"</span></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 19px; ">-King Arthur </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="line-height: 19px; font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"><br /></span></span></div></div>kimian55http://www.blogger.com/profile/16564071550408519750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1881172165075952873.post-74966424449095080212010-06-19T22:44:00.000-07:002010-06-19T23:54:01.427-07:00The Way We Think<div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"> <img src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_K_Rp1k1sEpU/Sc0nE42brGI/AAAAAAAAAKE/T_c93aNIZwM/s400/sad_cartoon.jpg" /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;">The Way We Think</span></span></b></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"> The way we think is the perfect reflection of our life. Its true. Observe have you ever met a person who thinks that his life is a mess, where nothing is going right. He hates the world curses at everything and his thinking is "My life is a mess,that's why this is the way I think"</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">Now there are also other people who thinks that life is amazing, they think that everyday is a blessing, an opportunity to be happier. To have a better life. That persons way of thinking is "Life is what you make it and I want to be happy" </div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><b>Jared says "I think like I do because the world is cruel and my life is a mess!!!!"</b></div><div style="text-align: left;"><b>No Jared, its nobody's fault.Your life is a mess because you think like you do!"</b></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;">Life is what you make it, you are a great designer. Your the only person in this world who can mold your future and present.</div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><b>-Life is what you make it</b></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div><div style="text-align: left;"><br /></div>kimian55http://www.blogger.com/profile/16564071550408519750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1881172165075952873.post-8783687359811603162010-06-13T00:08:00.000-07:002010-06-16T07:05:25.493-07:00Learn how to quit<div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div> <img src="http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc3/hs607.snc3/31950_101541586560218_100001131309863_10823_6577690_n.jpg" /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large; "><br /></span></span></b></div><div><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: large;">Learn How to quit</span></span></b></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div> Quiting someimes is overlooked and is considered a losers creed, but there are circumstances where we must. We must quit projects that consumes our time and effort without gain.</div><div><b>It is like planting pebbles in the soil, its not a seed it won't flourish into a plant. It is simply a waste of time and effort.</b></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div>Let us take Andrea, Andrea always wanted to have a happy family of her own, its her dream ever since and she thinks that her boyfriend Jeff is her way to that dream "having a family"</div><div>but Jeff is an abusive guy, he verbally even physically abuses Andrea. But Andrea being so blinded of her love with Jeff and her dream to have a family. She accepts her faith and just lives on with the abuses of Jeff.</div><div><br /></div><div>Andrea does her best to change Jeff wanting him to be the man of her dreams, that would father her children. But to no avail. His problems are internal and only he himself can change it. No one else. Probably even God since he gave us free will.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div>This is when we have to quit, We DO NOT QUIT OUR DREAM we QUIT OUR WAY to that dream. Let me explain, Andrea is a battered woman and she think that the only way in having her dream is through Jeff, she becomes confused about her DREAM and her PATH. So confused that she already thinks Jeff is her DREAM.</div><div><br /></div><div>Let me make this clear..her PATH is Jeff to her DREAM but Jeff is not that DREAM.</div><div><br /></div><div>If Andrea learns how to quit her path, realizing its no good there will be another way.</div><div><br /></div><div>So what happens when Andrea quit?</div><div><br /></div><div>She quits Jeff...breaks up with him she becomes lonely for a couple of months then comes John a well mannered man that treats her well. John now becomes a new PATH to her dream in having that happy family.. and he eventually is a much better path.</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div>The scenarios are endless, different circumstances but same solution. QUIT THE PROJECT THAT DOESN'T GIVE YOU ANYTHING...as I said there just like planting pebbles.</div><div><br /></div><div>-Don't quit every time though you must identify the things that don't work for you. Its easy to identify. There the ones that WASTE your time. </div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div>-Kim Ian M. Tumblod</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div>kimian55http://www.blogger.com/profile/16564071550408519750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1881172165075952873.post-39360379640657146492010-06-07T10:43:00.000-07:002010-06-07T11:51:00.012-07:00Pain is your friend<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"> </span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"> <img src="http://www.clipartguide.com/_named_clipart_images/0511-0709-2016-1841_Careless_Electrician_clipart_image.jpg" /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" ;font-size:large;"><b>Pain is your friend</b></span></span></div></span></span><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" ;font-size:large;"><br /></span></span></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><br /></span></span>What is pain? Pain is an unpleasant sensory and emotional experience associated with actual or potential tissue damage, or described in terms of such damage.<br />But what is it for? It’s a reminder that there is something wrong, When your body hurts pain tells you to take a rest or maybe stop what your doing for a while.</div><div><br />When your mind hurts or when you have heart ache or whatever the problem is. You experience emotional pain. So what does pain tell you? Pain tells you to forgive, stop worrying or think in a different way.</div><div><br />Just like holding a grudge against someone, You suffer, you experience pain. We sometimes misinterpret pain. Pain doesn't tell us kill that person. <b>Besides who ever told us that when we don’t forgive someone they suffer, you suffer not them</b>. Pain tells us to forgive. Since violence only begets violence resulting to more suffering.<br /><br />Pain is your friend not your enemy. Say hello to Pain when you meet again.<br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div>-Park Mun Min Jeong</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><br /><br /><br /><br />Approved by Kim Ian M. Tumblod <div><a target="_new" href="http://ezinearticles.com/"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#000000;"><br /></span><img src="http://ezinearticles.com/featured/images/ea_featured_3.gif" border="0" alt="As Featured On EzineArticles" /><br /></a></div>kimian55http://www.blogger.com/profile/16564071550408519750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1881172165075952873.post-11001655000351555992010-06-03T12:34:00.000-07:002010-06-04T11:52:19.033-07:00The University of Life<span class="Apple-style-span" style=" color: rgb(51, 51, 51); line-height: 18px; font-family:'Trebuchet MS', Verdana, Arial, sans-serif;font-size:13px;"><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 102, 0); "><b><img src="http://www.abanet.org/publiced/youth/sia/cartoons/schoolroom.jpg" /></b></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 102, 0); "><b><br /></b></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 102, 0); "><b><br /></b></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: rgb(255, 102, 0); "><b>The University of Life</b></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">Are you breathing? Are you still alive? Well you are currently enrolled in the University of life and you only graduate when you inevitably meet God.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">Life is like a big school full classes. All sorts of it and the teacher is experience. The funny thing is in the school of life you have to take the exam first then you learn the lesson.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span></span>A good example of this is when we were kids, our parents told us don’t play with fire or don’t touch that it’s hot but we did anyway and we go burned. Then we learned. Not to touch that it’s hot if we do we get hurt.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span></span>Problems in life are like the exams we blindly take it without knowing the answers. Some of us run and hide but most of us do answer it. After the exam the lesson is presented. Its up to us if we learn it or not. <span></span>That’s why if you don’t face your problems and run away from it the problem usually just stays and if it does go away the same kind of problem arises again in a different form sometimes in a much more complex state. Just like dropping your subject if you do so, it doesn't mean you won’t have to take it again. If you keep on failing the subject life must enroll you to a special program called School of Hard Knox where the lessons are tougher.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">Unlike any other school the University of Life never runs out of lessons you just keep on learning on small things and in big things. There is a saying “the worst mistake you can do is repeating the same mistake” Why because the lesson has already been given to you by Ms.Experience why would you make the same mistake?</span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span></span>If you don’t learn the lesson you have to take the exam again and again and again until you learn it. Unfortunately most of us don’t learn the lesson the first time.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">So from now on face your problems for they are the classrooms and exams you have to take to learn <span></span>the LESSONS in the University of Life.</span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><o:p></o:p></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;">-Kim Ian M. Tumblod</span></p></span><br /><br /><br /><br /><a href="http://www.hypersmash.com/dreamhost/" id="PQ65129841">DreamHost promo code</a>kimian55http://www.blogger.com/profile/16564071550408519750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1881172165075952873.post-29682608578923954202010-06-01T11:08:00.000-07:002010-06-01T12:41:17.370-07:00Believing vs Whishing<p class="MsoNormal"><br /></p><p class="MsoNormal"><br /></p><p class="MsoNormal"> <img src="http://www.istockphoto.com/file_thumbview_approve/2063865/2/istockphoto_2063865-dog-with-bone.jpg" /></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style=" ;font-size:large;">Believing vs Whishing</span></b></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><br /></p><p class="MsoNormal"></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>The small difference of a poor man and a rich man that makes a big difference is not education nor the willpower or skills in life. <span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>It’s this thought “the rich man believes he can have it” the poor man “wishes he had it”.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Let’s defy the root words.</p> <p class="MsoNormal">Wish: <span class="apple-style-span"><span style="line-height:115%;Arial","sans-serif";color:black;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;">Something desired or longed for.</span></span></span></span></p> <p class="MsoNormal">Believe: <span class="apple-style-span"><span style=" line-height: 115%; color:black;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;">To have firm faith</span></span></span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;"> to expect somethin</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family:arial;">g.</span></span><o:p></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>Try to talk to a poor man and he would only wish for the finer things in life and try to talk to a rich man (self made) <span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>and he believed then he worked for it (not all rich people of course there were those who born with it). Self made millionaires actually did wish they had millions but with it was the belief that it would come true. Believe it or not the universe has rules and it gives us what we want. Have you ever heard this from someone, Someone asks “How are you doing?” the other person replies “just surviving” and that’s what he exactly gets. JUST SURVIVING..</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>Although wishful thinking is not bad, believing in getting it is better. If you believe that you would own a sports car or a grand mansion you would eventually have it. Think of it like this “did you want something in your life and eventually you had it. It took some time to get it but you did or you do have it now… in that process I bet that you really wanted that object and you believed that you will get it a new laptop, a vacation, diamond ring etc... All because you wanted it, God said it himself “ask and it will be given to”.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>Focus on what you want and you will have it. That’s the rule don’t wish for it. BELIEVE you will get it. Bill Gates was mocked at when he first tried to sell the first PC and so was his friend Steve Jobs but both believed that every household and office in the USA would need the PC and they WERE RIGHT. We are using it right now. <span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>I’m not saying sit down all day and believe you will get it, you have to WORK FOR IT and believe in it.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal">I believe people would read this article and you are reading right now. =)</p><p></p><p class="MsoNormal"> </p><p class="MsoNormal">-Park Mun Min Jeong</p><p class="MsoNormal"><br /></p><p class="MsoNormal"><br /><br /><br /><br /><a href="http://www.blogcatalog.com/directory/education-and-learning/personal-development/development_and_growth/" title="Self Improvement & Performance Blogs - BlogCatalog Blog Directory"><img src="http://www.blogcatalog.com/images/buttons/blogcatalog5.gif" alt="Self Improvement & Performance Blogs - BlogCatalog Blog Directory" style="border: 0;" /></a>kimian55http://www.blogger.com/profile/16564071550408519750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1881172165075952873.post-31647628107405467082010-05-31T05:23:00.001-07:002010-05-31T11:11:27.905-07:00Getting attached<p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> <img src="http://www.cartoonstock.com/newscartoons/cartoonists/rbo/lowres/rbon964l.jpg" /></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;">Getting attached </span></b></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p><br /></o:p></p><p class="MsoNormal"><o:p><br /></o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>You’ve heard it millions of times in love songs “I love you so much you’re my whole world” , “I won’t be complete without you” or I won’t be happy without you. To make things clear the message being presented is “I’m too attached to you I can’t afford of losing you”. Unfortunately this is wrong YOU ARE A WHOLE PERSON YOU DON’T NEED ANYONE TO FEEL COMPLETE or to make you happy that’s a fact. Being happy is a choice </p> <p class="MsoNormal"> Now this doesn't just apply on people this also applies to your job, money, your old laptop, your old High School. In life one thing is constant and that is change. </p><p class="MsoNormal"><br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">Happy people don’t just accept the changes they embrace it whole heartedly. It is a great challenge to do so like letting go of a relationship or just simply erasing a person a number in your phone book. It’s a difficult task<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>but if you don’t YOU SIMPLY WON’T GROW AS A PERSON.<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="mso-spacerun:yes"></span> Add to that you also tend to screw up, sometimes we manage to screw up our whole lives because we can’t accept change and that we are too attached.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span><b>When we cling on to something we tend to screw up like money, people… The great challenge we encounter in life is appreciating everything we have and not be attached to any of it.</b></p><p class="MsoNormal">I really kept it short since I wanted to deliver my message short and swift....=)</p><p class="MsoNormal"><br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">-Kim Ian M. 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So you say to yourself at night. “I won’t be late, I won’t be late I’ll wake up early so traffic won’t get me” then during your commute to work or school TRAFFIC hits you. Your so damn angry, your gonna be late.. you focus on the negative it ruins your day…irritating isn’t it.!?</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>I’ll give you a true story, I had a classmate in a seminar I had a few years back his name is Michael, during the seminar we had the opportunity to share. Michael shared his thoughts he is<span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>a 31 year old accountant and is unsatisfied with his life, he gets bullied at work rarely gets a date, his boss gives him all the work and gets no credit and bills are piling up at his apartment, he complains everything about his life. Underpaid and unappreciated by the world, he focuses on how miserable his life is. He consciously thinks how disastrous his status is, he fears that he would grow old lonely and die alone on the street. </p> <p class="MsoNormal">And that’s WHAT HE EXACTLY GETS. </p> <p class="MsoNormal"><o:p> </o:p></p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>Jack Canfield one of councilors was just listening then he uttered “Don’t focus on what you don’t want FOCUS ON WHAT YOU WANT” he further explains that the more you focus your thought on things the bigger they become. So focus on what you want. I was actually surprised on what he said, I thought he would give some tips and tricks to stop Michael’s misery but he didn’t. He further explains don’t talk about them don’t think about them. To turn things around you should appreciate what you have and focus on the things that makes you happy.</p> <p class="MsoNormal"><span style="mso-spacerun:yes"> </span>About 6 months later me and Michael bumped into each other at a coffee shop, he told me that he took Mr. Canfields advice to heart and everything just turned out great. The people at his office that bullied him started to leave for some reason they did, He was also transferred to another department in his new office he had a new nicer boss. He paid his bills right and was debt free. His also dating his new officemate and things are doing great he says. What a turn around, when I first met him I felt like that man carried the whole world on his shoulders. When I saw him at the coffee shop he just felt lighter and happier.</p> <p class="MsoNormal">Honestly this is so true. Think about it, have you ever had a miserable week where everything is a disaster and when you try to fix it or worry about it the worst it becomes for you?</p> <p class="MsoNormal">So try this “FOCUS ON WHAT YOU WANT!!!” like being happy..or…owning that sports car and believing that you will get it and you will.</p><p class="MsoNormal"><br /></p><p class="MsoNormal">-Kim Ian M. Tumblod</p><p class="MsoNormal"><br /></p><p class="MsoNormal"><a href="http://www.topblogarea.com/personal/" title="Personal blogs"><img border="0" src="http://www.topblogarea.com/tracker.php?do=in&id=133019" alt="Personal blogs" /></a></p>kimian55http://www.blogger.com/profile/16564071550408519750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1881172165075952873.post-72327783816278281212010-05-28T07:50:00.000-07:002010-05-28T08:40:38.937-07:00Simple thoughts 1<div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#0000EE;"><u><br /></u></span></div><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#0000EE;"><br /></span></u></div><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#0000EE;"><u><br /></u></span></div><br /><div style="text-align: center;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#0000EE;"><u><br /></u></span></div><br /><b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;">Simple thoughts 1 </span></span></b><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF6600;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size:large;"><br /><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#000000;"><br /></span></span></span><div><div><br /><div><br /><div><br /></div><div><br /><img src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_lhp5vS9BelI/S__Z7TfthvI/AAAAAAAAAH4/klfDtqRnZzk/s200/0511-0811-0415-3734_Cartoon_of_a_Red_Faced_Angry_Man_clipart_image.jpg" /><br /><br /></div><div><br /></div><div> When you get angry or upset remember this, its not the people who make you angry</div><div>its your thoughts about them. Whatever it is that makes you angry their just thoughts in your head and you can control them. You can change that thought.=)</div><div><br /></div><div>-Kim Ian Tumblod</div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div> <img src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_lhp5vS9BelI/S__c7tIvfoI/AAAAAAAAAIA/Wv2mPsgyzUY/s200/new+start.jpg" /></div><div>The time and place to make a new start is right where you are.<br />Think about it before you go and quit your job or move to a new place try changing how you think or how you view and do things.<br /><br />When you want your situation to be different change your actions, usually same actions gets the same result. Different action different result. Go ahead and try it out.<br /><br />-Kim Ian M. Tumblod<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><img src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_lhp5vS9BelI/S__egOlSi-I/AAAAAAAAAII/-XqzxgqVNC8/s200/discipline.jpg" /><br />Be disciplined on doing small things, like brushing your teeth at night even though you’re really tired.<br />If you do the little things like brushing your teeth or exercising regularly you can get more out of life.<br />Think about it..=)<br /><br />-Mun Min Jeong<br /><br /><br /><img src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_lhp5vS9BelI/S__hprN3ugI/AAAAAAAAAIg/XxclZmY81TE/s200/no+problem.gif" /><br /><br />Giving advice, when people don’t ask for it don’t give it. They usually don’t wanna hear it.<br /><br />-Jared Greene<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><img src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_lhp5vS9BelI/S__f37DmzKI/AAAAAAAAAIQ/vI-j4JjmI5k/s200/article-1211462-064E0F26000005DC-110_468x477.jpg" /><br />If you want people to treat you well you must treat well.<br />How can you love someone if you don’t love yourself.<br /><br />-Kim ian M. Tumblod<br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><img src="http://www.clipartguide.com/_named_clipart_images/0511-0702-0211-2544_Depressed_Businessman_clipart_image.jpg" /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div>Where did we get the idea that if we don’t forgive people, they suffer?<br /><br />-Andrew Matthews<br /></div></div></div></div>kimian55http://www.blogger.com/profile/16564071550408519750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1881172165075952873.post-15228998598160852142010-05-25T09:04:00.000-07:002010-05-26T06:49:59.967-07:00Conversation 1 Listening<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_lhp5vS9BelI/S_v1iq2jb4I/AAAAAAAAAHo/jHHAEFPx2r4/s1600/conversation.gif"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:center;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 245px; height: 209px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_lhp5vS9BelI/S_v1iq2jb4I/AAAAAAAAAHo/jHHAEFPx2r4/s400/conversation.gif" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5475239747966431106" /></a><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">This topic comes and in 2 parts listening and talking<br /></span><br /><br />Conversation 1 Listening <br /><br /><br /> What is the first word that comes out people mouths when they talk? Its usually “I” It kinda goes like this. I went to the pharmacy this morning, I’m going to the business trip tomorrow or I went skiing on the hills of Mount Everest. It’s always the “I”<br /> Do this next time you have a conversation with someone OBSERVE. Do they fiddle, glance at the watch, look at the ceiling? Do they repeat what you said to just to check if they understood what you said? Or are they just waiting for you to shut up! So they can talk, most people crave for someone to listen to them<br />Think back in time, had you ever had a conversation with someone who seemed to be not interested with what you were saying, or wasn’t even remotely interested in talking to you. Were you irritated? If that’s the case we should remind ourselves that other people too can see if we are interested in them. <br /><br />If we want to be friends with someone, we have to show that we care about them and that were interested in what they are saying “WE SHOULD LISTEN”. When we show care and interest we forget about ourselves and rarely have a problem keeping the conversation going. We stop thinking “What am I going to say next?” this also applies in the dating world if you listen, show care and interest you rarely come up short with what to say next. <br /><br />If you don’t want to make an effort to care about someone its best for you to just leave, do something else. Rather than spend time with a person you don’t want to be with. If your going to talk to someone why not give them your whole attention. <br /><br />Isn’t it a wonder if someone just would listen to you when you talk, a person that would give 100% attention to what your saying and really listen. So the next time you have conversation with someone try to listen with you whole attention, show care. I promise you will become a special person in that someone=)<br /><br /><br /><br />-Ian Tumblodkimian55http://www.blogger.com/profile/16564071550408519750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1881172165075952873.post-6467079574730116112010-05-20T18:56:00.000-07:002010-05-22T03:28:58.159-07:00Getting Nervous<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_lhp5vS9BelI/S_aiD_CEkDI/AAAAAAAAAGU/1FPzB1ri0GU/s1600/nl_cartoon56.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 308px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_lhp5vS9BelI/S_aiD_CEkDI/AAAAAAAAAGU/1FPzB1ri0GU/s400/nl_cartoon56.jpg" border="0" alt="" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5473740586458845234" /></a><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color:#FF0000;"><b>Getting nervous</b></span><br /><br />Do you ever get nervous?<br />Do other people make you nervous?<br />Ok!? So that means you also make other people nervous.<br /><br />People who look calm, cool and steady are not really that confident<br />Sometimes there the most nervous of all people, they are just good in hiding it.<br /><br />It kinda goes like this…<br /><br />You have a new neighbor named Jared<br />He seems pretty cool and confident, your actually interested in knowing him. So you say I'm going to say hi to him he seems to be a pretty nice guy, you went to you local grocery to get some supplies, Jared was also there shopping. You wanted to say Hi… but you were nervous and thought “ what if he doesn't acknowledge me?” then I’ll get embarrassed. So you didn't say Hi…<br />A few days later when you were having a walk you happen to come across with Jared “you say again to yourself again "this time I’d say Hi but what if he is a snob and he doesn't want to talk to me?”<br /><br />3 months later you went to a neighbors party and Jared was introduced to you then Jared says..” I see you around the neighborhood we even go to the same grocery store. I really wanted to say hi… but I was nervous you wouldn't talk to me”, What a coincidence? Wouldn't it be great if we just set aside our egos and just say stop getting nervous and just say "Hi, how are you? I see you around here...my name is (your name), What's yours?"<br />This also applies to other stuff. The girl/boy you like, your classmate, your sisters office mate the list goes on and on with different circumstances at hand. It’s our fear of rejection that blocks us from saying hi or hello I’d like to get to know you. Of course I’m not saying that you won’t get rejected but if you think about it we ALL get rejected, but you never know unless you try. Think about it this way if you see a person who seems very interesting.. go ahead and talk to that person. Just say hi or hello, you never know you could be very good friends with him or her. You just never know.<br />You would know never unless you try.<br /><br />So just remember these thing….<br /><br />1. All of us get nervous.<br /><br />2. You talk to someone in a nice way, you say hi or hello and that person is a snob or acknowledges you in an unfriendly way smile and walk away, he is the one who has a problem.<br /><br />3. People often times are just waiting to be approached and want to talk there just shy go ahead and initiate, cause if you don’t nothing happens<br /><br />Go ahead and initiate the conversation if you do this you will gain many many friends in your life=)<br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><br /></div><div><div><!-- Begin BlogToplist tracker code --></div><div><a href="http://www.blogtoplist.com/personal/" title="Personal"></div><div><img src="http://www.blogtoplist.com/tracker.php?u=132696" alt="Personal" border="0" /></a></div><div><noscript><a href="http://www.mobiltbredband.net">mobilt bredband</a></noscript></div><div><!-- End BlogToplist tracker code --></div><div><br /></div><div><div><!-- Begin BlogToplist voting code --></div><div><a href="http://www.blogtoplist.com/vote.php?u=132696" target="_blank"></div><div><img src="http://www.blogtoplist.com/images/votebutton.gif" alt="Top Blogs" border="0" /></a></div><div><!-- End BlogToplist voting code --></div></div></div>kimian55http://www.blogger.com/profile/16564071550408519750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1881172165075952873.post-54179731403904769142010-05-14T15:50:00.000-07:002010-05-14T22:08:08.635-07:00Blaming other people<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_lhp5vS9BelI/S-3WLtQ0pvI/AAAAAAAAAFU/MrXfo9Hxl18/s1600/blaming+people.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 129px; height: 116px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_lhp5vS9BelI/S-3WLtQ0pvI/AAAAAAAAAFU/MrXfo9Hxl18/s400/blaming+people.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5471264618942080754" /></a><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Blaming other people<br /> </span><br /><br /><br /><br /> People who blame others are unhappy.Wouldn't you agree? Well I used to be then I realized back in college that blaming people is for LOSERS. Don’t be offended if you’re the type for I am telling you the truth. <br /> <br /><span style="font-weight:bold;">Let’s take a closer look.</span> <br /><br /><br /> Jared is an accountant at a telecommunication company he is a “blamer”. One time he came home late 1am in the morning from drinking beer with his buddies from work. Her wife Donna was already asleep when he got home. Jared still had work the following day but decided to watch TV for one hour more then he went to sleep. When he finally woke up it was already past 10am he had missed work and was suppose to get up 6:30 in the morning for work at 8:00. He was so angry at his wife he shouted “Why didn’t you wake me up I missed work!? You ignorant fool”. Donna says “What? Its my fault? If you didn’t drink beer with your friends last night you could have woke earlier. Then Jared replies you should have set the alarm clock to 6:30… I missed work its you fault..<br /><br /><span style="font-weight:bold;"> This is the case of Anthony</span><br /><br /> One time Anthony and his sibling Josh and Amber went swimming at a local swimming pool along with other relatives because of a party. They had fun and all that and after the swimming they all took showers. Amber being the youngest and the only girl told both his brothers to put the wet clothes in the plastic bag. So they did. Upon getting home the plastic bags were emptied. Then poof!? Anthony the oldest brothers black T-shirt was gone, he went crazy and told both of his sibling Josh and Amber that they were incompetent and had no sense of propriety. Anthony asks Amber? Why didn’t you check my clothes? You should have checked my clothes call our Aunt ask her where it is…(at 1am) He shouts and curses blaming the two for his lost T-shirt.. He says “It’s your fault” both of you should have checked if my black shirt was in the plastic bag, he also asks “Josh did you see my shirt when I came back to the cottage?” Josh says no. He insults him telling him that he should be responsible enough to see the things around him…...and Anthony is 26 years old by the way.. very responsible(sarcasm).<br /><br />These people are the people who are unhappy in life.. The ones who blame blame blame..others. Its everybody’s fault but not theres, If John only didn’t drink beer last night or at least turned on the alarm clock he would have never missed work, if Anthony was responsible enough to check his own clothes in the plastic bag he would have never lost his shirt. But they chose not to be responsible instead they blame others they made an escape goat an easy way out of their mistakes by blaming. A lot of people do blame others. I know I blamed other people as well in my younger years but this should be changed. <br /><br /><br /><br />Take responsibility and don’t blame. Everything that happens in your life is because it was your choice. YES your actions led you to that misfortune in life. Don’t blame and responsible because if you do blame YOU WILL ALWAYS KEEP ON BLAMING OTHERS but not yourself. If you do blame it will be an unending trend. You will always do it not unless you STOP NOW.<br /><br />Don’t blame anyone you’re a drug addict or you got fired from your job, its not other people fault its yours. Now that you know this stop blaming others for whom you are and what you became to be as a person. Stop saying "if my mom only helped me" or "If only my girlfriend was here I would be happy" OK STOP its nobody's fault your miserable its YOU. If your obese then take responsibility to go on a diet if your a teenage delinquent get back to school and study.<br /><br />Although I must say that we can't control everything in our lives but we have more than enough over it to take responsibility, stop blaming and be happy in life.<br /><br />Take responsibility and don’t blame LOSERS do that and its time for you to become a WINNER in life=)<br /><br /><br /><br />-Kim Ian M. Tumblod<br /><br />SES by <a href="http://www.degreeadvantage.com/business-degrees.html">business degree online</a> promotion team.kimian55http://www.blogger.com/profile/16564071550408519750noreply@blogger.com